05.04.07

Battling Eating Disorders

Posted in Life Coaching, Self-Help, Health and Wellness, Eating Disorders at 7:09 pm by Life Coach Nova

You are not alone. The epidemic of unhealthy eating patterns, extreme measures, and the quiet secrets of today’s women and men to get thin and stay thin indicates a broad social undercurrent of influence. All over the country, and especially here in Orange County, pressures can be suffocating for teens, women of all ages, and yes men too. The constant evaluation from peers, strangers in the mall, and ourselves spurs anxiety. When anxiety sits with you in any situation, your reaction will be more physical. Think about the physical reaction of anxiety; your heart races, your stomach hurts, your palms sweat, you may even get dizzy. When anxiety reaches uncomfortable levels, your natural defenses kick in to try to avoid reaching that level again. Some people rationalize, some withdraw, some work through anxiety. Then there others that sit with anxiety until fear overtakes them and becomes a dominant theme in their life.

Fear is the root of any disorder. Focusing on eating disorders, fear can override even the most intellectual, attaching onto food, body image, and self-esteem. Fear of Judgment spins the common thread with individuals who have suffered through an eating disorder. The story behind Fear of Judgment gets strength from the natural defense to escape fear and uncomfortable judgment. The diligent, extreme dieter can literally disappear from judgment by becoming and staying thin, sometimes too thin. Weight can also fluctuate drastically up and down adding desperation and harming natural metabolism intensifying the emotional and physical battle to just feel normal. The focus turns from weight, to escaping judgment and fear. The cycle of escaping judgment can be so intense, health suffers, relationships suffer, and the spirit suffers. Fear of Judgment turns self-definition to self-escape and negative self-talk, taking away from emotional presence, joy, and personal growth.

There is always hope in battling eating disorders. If you think of an eating disorder as a manifestation of fear, then the real battle becomes conquering fear. Fear is tricky to spot, until it literally overtakes you. By understanding and decreasing the precursors to fear, such as anxiety, guilt, and shame, you gain insight into how fear works and undermines you. The strongest warrior against fear is your own voice. Defining, accepting, and building yourself provides you with the armour needed to protect you from fear and move through perceived judgment. Fear of Judgment becomes more intense when individuals must turn to others and their environment to define who they are. If your self-definition remains strong, you look inward, toward your heart and soul, warming away the coldness of fear.

Without fear, you are free to be healthy on all levels. Food becomes fuel, and your body becomes a gift. Without fear, relationships improve, your voice will surface, and success will greet you around every turn.

Warmly,

Life Coach Nova

Blast through fear, define yourself, and move through life with success. Contact me for a complimentary consultation.

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Finding My Voice

Posted in Life Coaching, Client Testimonials, Health and Wellness, Hope, Eating Disorders at 6:52 pm by Life Coach Nova

A Touching Client Testimonial written by Step Stones For Life client and blog user, FindingHope.

For a very long time, I was suffering from an awful eating disorder. Bulimia is a deceitful voice in one’s head, ironically feeding not from food, but off of fear, anger & anxiety. It grows stronger by manipulating and shadowing one’s true self, until one day, you don’t recognize the person staring back at you in the mirror. It is a horrifying experience to realize the monster you’ve grown inside, and even worse to surrender to it.

During the course of my disorder, I felt my soul slowly slipping away. For a while I believed that it was held in place, somewhere in my core, only by a tiny, delicate thread. I continued my lifestyle for years until I wasn’t even sure if it was there at all. A constant numbness convinced me that I had lost my soul forever, creating this vast hollowness inside, so deep I don’t know where it began or ended.

I was convinced by this voice that I would be like this forever. I accepted both the dependence and false support I received from this disguised demon. His arms were wrapped around me so tightly I could hardly breathe. Yet, how would I function without him? In essence, fear perpetuated fear. My attempts at recovery can only compare to a very bad relationship. The kind where you break up and reconcile, over and over. You constantly try to end it, but end up running back to open arms, feeling both safety and shame at returning yet again.

Sometimes I think about the recovery process I experienced with my life coach as unbelievable, because I truly felt that I was a lost cause beyond repair. I wanted so badly to live a different life, I just didn’t know where, or when, or how to begin.

Due to an intense fear of judgment, I had trouble asking for help. When I finally reached out for life coaching with Nova, I still had issues trusting someone with my dark and shameful secret. Slowly, and when I was ready, she convinced me, among other things, to simply find hope. It was inside me all along, buried by illusion. Hope presented itself as this flicker of light, a momentary reflection of gold, a chance at a meaningful and fulfilling life. For the first time in years, I felt the presence of my soul, of me, and was secretly in awe of the strength of that tiny, delicate thread.

I feel emotional when I think about my life coaching experience. I am overwhelmed with gratitude, excitement, and even a little fear at the prospect of this new life that I’m creating. But even a big amount of fear is not enough to pull this heavy anchor of hope, faith, and awareness I discovered inside of me, all thru the steady encouragement of my life coach. I am a great work in progress, constantly learning and growing. I have a bright, golden voice.

With Sincerity,

FindingHope
A Step Stones For Life Client

There is always Hope.

Life Coach Nova
Email: Nova@StepStonesForLife.com
Call: 949-858-2442  or Toll Free: 1-877-484-LIFE

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